An au pair is a young person, typically aged 18-30, who lives with a host family in a foreign country to help with childcare and light household tasks in exchange for room, board, and pocket money. It’s a cultural exchange program that allows the au pair to experience life in a new country while supporting the host family with their daily needs.

The term "au pair" comes from French and means "on par" or "equal." This reflects the idea that the au pair is treated as an equal member of the family rather than a traditional employee.

An au pair’s primary responsibilities include:

• Assisting with childcare (e.g., playing with children, helping with homework, preparing snacks).

• Performing light household chores related to the children (e.g., tidying up play areas, doing the children's laundry).

• Supporting the family’s daily routine, such as taking the kids to school or activities.

Au pairs are not expected to do heavy cleaning, gardening, or take on duties outside of childcare.

The number of working hours depends on the country’s regulations, but it usually ranges from 20 to 45 hours per week. Most countries also require the au pair to have at least one or two full days off per week.

An au pair placement typically lasts 6 months to 1 year, depending on the country and the agreement between the host family and the au pair. Some placements may be shorter (e.g., summer au pair programs) or can be extended for a second year.

Host families gain:

• Reliable childcare: Flexible support tailored to the family’s schedule and needs.

• Cultural enrichment: Exposure to a new culture and language, benefiting both parents and children.

• Cost-effective care: Hosting an au pair is often more affordable than hiring a full-time nanny or using daycare services.

• Relationship: An au pair is treated as a family member, while a nanny is an employee.

• Cultural Exchange: Au pair programs focus on cultural exchange, while nanny roles are purely for childcare.

• Living Arrangement: Au pairs live with the host family, whereas nannies may live either with the family (live-in nanny) or separately (live-out nanny).

An au pair receives:

• Free room and board (a private room and meals with the family).

• A weekly or monthly stipend (pocket money) based on the country’s regulations.

• Often, language course support or contributions to educational expenses.

• Time off: Regular free time, including days off each week and paid vacation time, depending on the country’s rules.

The amount of pocket money varies depending on the country and the specific program regulations. On average, an au pair in Europe can expect to receive between €250 to €500 per month. It's important to check the regulations in the host country, as some have set minimum amounts.

• EU/EEA citizens do not need a visa to work as an au pair in another EU/EEA country.

• Non-EU citizens typically need to apply for an au pair visa or a work holiday visa, depending on the country’s rules. It’s best to check the specific visa requirements before making travel plans.

Yes, basic childcare experience is typically required. This doesn’t have to be formal work experience; it can include babysitting, volunteering, helping with younger siblings, or working in a daycare setting. Families often look for au pairs who can confidently care for children and handle common childcare tasks.

While fluency is not usually required, having a basic understanding of the host country’s language is beneficial. It helps with communication and adjusting to daily life. Many au pairs take language courses while abroad, and host families often encourage or support this learning.

Driving requirements vary:

• Some families prefer an au pair who can drive, especially in rural areas where public transportation may be limited.

• The au pair may need to have a valid international driver’s license or a local driver’s license depending on the country’s regulations.

• Families usually provide a car for the au pair’s use and may ask for a driving test to ensure safety.

No, an au pair is usually only allowed to work for one host family at a time. The program is designed to be a cultural exchange experience with a single family, and working for multiple families may violate visa rules or program guidelines.

Yes, au pairs are encouraged to travel and explore the host country during their time off. However, they should inform the host family about any travel plans in advance and make sure it does not conflict with their agreed work schedule.

In most countries, the host family is required to provide health insurance for the au pair, covering basic medical needs. It’s important for both parties to check the insurance coverage and ensure it meets the host country’s requirements before the placement begins.

Yes, extensions are possible in many cases, depending on the country’s regulations and visa conditions. If both the au pair and host family agree to extend, they should apply for a visa extension or follow the necessary legal steps in the host country.

Yes, taking language courses is a common part of the au pair experience. Many host families encourage or even help cover the cost of language classes, as it benefits both the au pair and the family. Some countries require au pairs to enroll in a language course as part of the program.

Yes, same-sex couples and single parents are welcome to host an au pair, as long as they can provide a safe and welcoming environment. It’s important to clearly communicate your family structure and expectations when creating your profile, so potential au pairs understand and feel comfortable with the arrangement.

Families can make their au pair feel welcome by:

• Including them in family activities and meals.

• Providing a comfortable and private room.

• Offering guidance and support, especially during the first few weeks of adjustment.

• Being open and communicative about expectations and house rules.

No, there isn’t a specific age limit for host parents. The most important criteria are that the family can provide a safe, supportive environment and meet the financial and legal requirements of hosting an au pair.

Au pairs usually have at least one or two full days off per week, with at least one being a weekend day. Additionally, most countries require that au pairs receive at least two weeks of paid vacation per year. It’s important to discuss and agree on time off before starting the placement.

Overnight care is not typically expected of au pairs, as their primary role is to help with daytime childcare and light household tasks. However, some families may occasionally need help at night (e.g., if a parent is traveling or working night shifts). Any overnight duties should be clearly discussed and agreed upon in advance.